I was asked this week, quite simply, if I wrote a journal.
My response was scathing. "Me, write a diary? Lord Never!"
In fact, I have some aversion to people in general who write diaries. Certainly a consequence of my previous relationships.
However, it is necessary here to explain that these antipathies are not based solely on the vagaries of disparate memories and bygone days. But more on simple concepts of psychology related to the generic communication between two people.
Come what are the possible reasons to write a diary
1 - The biography .
(The less common)
The person who writes a newspaper this way transposes writing almost every day, a bunch of different elements good and bad. His sentiments vis-à-vis a new event, this action should not have to ask, this beautiful day spent fishing with his son, etc.. The goal here is not just on paper translate the complexities of his life, but rather to build a receuil in which that person may refer to the occasion to remember.
This book is neither good nor bad. He "is". And the person who wrote this type of diary no gaps in communication order. However, it is a rare case.
2 - The atoning.
(Common)
People who write this kind of diary are burdened with heavy problems in relationships. People who lie constantly and / or are unable to live without changing personality to please others. This log type is characterized by gloomy thoughts only. Events black, dark. Feelings of dissatisfaction. Hatred.
Psychologists often suggest that such people still burdened, to write diaries to express feelings. This process fails unfortunately most of the time.
3 - The substitute.
(most common)
Preponderance of the negative in this intimate Jounal. Yes there are some positives, but in much smaller quantities than moody elements. This paper focuses largely on affective episodes. And it is in most cases, the worst enemy of any relationship.
People who write this type of newspaper fleeing conflict situations. They are very sociable in general, but limited ability to express feelings in relationships. In short, they do not communicate.
They use the diary as a relational loophole. they write rather than speak. They hide instead of facing each other. By dint of writing, they come to believe that they are able to manage crisis situations. This, of course, is not the case. Towards each other, they say nothing. At the newspaper, they say it all.
These people use the diary as a drug addict using drugs. To flee to avoid.
Finally, these people still reject the blame on the other.
That's why I'm disinclined to like the authors of diaries. And note that I am writing this article together with a friend at the Masters in psychology.
So think twice the next time you lie down your words on paper. Ask yourself what are your motivations, and whether it would be wiser to face reality ...
